New York based sex and relationship therapist
Dr. Leyla Gulcur, Ph.D.
Are you ready for a roadmap to overcome sexual and relationship problems?
Are you frustrated by the quality of your close relationships?
Maybe you feel stuck in a passionless marriage, experience a lack of intimacy, have trouble feeling pleasure, face performance anxiety, or are distressed because you and your partner seem to have mismatched sexual desires.
Perhaps you get caught up in repeating arguments that never seem to go anywhere. Or, you have trouble communicating your needs and wants and regularly end up disappointed and resentful.
Maybe you are in an intercultural or interracial relationship and experience cultural differences with your partner. Or perhaps you are a multicultural individual, an expat, or a sexual outsider and find it challenging to navigate among different cultural norms and societal expectations around relationships and sex.
Perhaps you are in an open, consensually non-monogamous partnership and struggle to negotiate your needs and boundaries within a non-traditional setting.
You may be single, casually dating, married, separated, divorced, in an exclusive relationship, in multiple relationships -- or anything in between. Whatever your relationship status, you are probably here because something about your past or current relationships does not feel quite right.
If this sounds like you, I’ve got you. I specialize in helping people frustrated with the quality of their close relationships, who are experiencing communication conflicts, lack of intimacy and a challenging sex life. All relationship styles, sexualities and genders are welcome.
What you can expect in our sessions together
In our sessions, I will use a holistic, culturally aware and integrated mind-body approach. Together we will work to help you identify your needs, learn to express what you want clearly and powerfully, build intimacy and connection, access your inner sense of pleasure and boost your skills for optimal sexuality.
I will help you identify habits and patterns that no longer serve you in your relationships. We will work collaboratively together to help you re-design your relationship template and sexual scripts so that you can experience more fulfilling relationships and a satisfying sex life.
Over time, you will:
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Understand how your family of origin relationships and attachment style impacts your current relationships
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Learn the principles of healthy communication by expressing your feelings and needs
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Discover the difference between linear and circular sex and understand the different sexuality models you can use in your life
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Identify your sexual inhibitors and excitators and recognize your sexy and not-so-sexy contexts
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Enhance sexual polarity between you and your partner through slow sex and tantric approaches
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Gain access to a toolkit of practices to boost daily pleasure
Services
Multicultural Therapy
If you are a bicultural or multicultural individual, expat, sexual outsider, or in a cross-cultural or non-traditional relationship, you may be struggling with a variety of acculturation challenges. If you would like help navigating and integrating these challenges to reach a fuller, more expanded way of life, multicultural therapy may be the right choice for you.
How I work with people
I use a results-oriented approach to help build authentic, pleasurable relationships. Together we will co-create a treatment plan that is tailored to your individual needs. You will practice the skills you learn in between sessions, via weekly homework.
In our sessions together, I will use a client-centered, integrative, mind-body approach involving techniques from positive psychology, attachment theory, Emotionally Focused Therapy, the Gottman Method, brainspotting, mindfulness, sex therapy and slow sex. I also incorporate breathing and movement practices based on qigong, martial arts and Chinese medicine. These approaches come from my training in sex therapy, the Gottman Method, Emotionally Focused Therapy, non-violent communication, focusing, brainspotting, tantra, taichi, bagua and qigong.
